How did we do it? Our journey started well before his birthday. While both teaching in the public schools, we decided for many reasons that we should home educate our own children. The final event that convinced me that we were making the right choice was when a group of fifth grade girls returned from recess in tears. One girl had told her best friend that she was no longer friends with her. This was shocking, as they really were nice girls who got along nicely in class. I decided that the students were too mean to each other for me to subject my child to that kind of hateful behavior. When our son arrived, within a week of his birth he heard us reading to him daily from the Bible. He attended church 5 days after his birth where he heard music, prayers, and more Scripture. He had lots of interaction, as the whole church wanted to hold him. Shortly after that, he was baptized into the church. Our home was filled with God’s word, friends, home cooked meals, music, and prayers on a daily basis. His day would start and end with outside time in nature for long walks in his stroller. Daily lessons were given from the book, Slow and Steady Get Me Ready by June R. Oberlander. This would continue through 5 years of age.
By the age of two, he would walk to the local library for Story Book Time for toddlers. He would walk/run with his mom-getting lots of sunshine, exercise, and happiness. He mostly ran with mom working hard to keep up with his pace. This continued through the age of 5. Along the way, he would encounter neighbors and the “Princess” ballet class at the community center. He was mesmerized my the music and dance of the 3-5 year olds in their pink tutus and decorative wands doing the butterfly dance. The instructor would let him visit and even invited him to join the class. He was captivated by beauty, but we knew he would enjoy more athletic activities. By the age of 4 his mom would begin tutoring kindergarten to the neighbor’s son at the breakfast bar in our house. He wanted to be a part of the lesson and would sit next to the boy studiously learning his letters and sounds. At the age of 5, he observed his mom preparing for an Algebra I lesson and said that he wanted to learn Calculus. I explained to him that he had to work through all of the levels of math before being able to do Calculus.
At the age of 5, we officially began home educating our son. We were one week in, when we received a phone call from a police officers in Florida and Alabama informing us that our grandmother (who had dementia) was on her way attempting to visit us in California. This was news to us! She was being detained in the emergency room of a hospital in Alabama. My husband and son flew out to Alabama to rescue Granny. So, after being one week into homeschooling, we took in our 93 year old grandmother with dementia for 3 years. This was very challenging and yet rewarding. During this year, our son would begin Brazilian jiu jitsu at an academy just up the street from us. We put him into the sport to meet his Physical Education requirement and broaden his socialization. Our neighbor was a world champion kick boxer and had a black belt in jiu jitsu. He had turned his living room into a dojo. When our son was an infant, I asked my neighbor what the best martial art was. He persuaded me to believe that it was jiu jitsu. And it just so happened that a few doors away from us was world champion jiu jitsu practitioner, Paulo Guillobel, who recently opened his school up the street. Our son’s first class was taught by the first South African female jiu jitsu black belt and recent world champion, Penny Thomas. She was tough, but taught the students discipline right away. Our son enjoyed the rigor and rolling. Five year old jiu jitsu students have to be some of the cutest little people in gis learning the art of jiu jitsu. They had smiling, round little faces and bodies, rolling around on the mat learning how to submit their opponents. Our son particularly enjoyed the hip throw, and, to Sensei Thomas’ surprise, experienced having our son asking her to hip throw him over and over again. He would become hooked on the sport, winning his first in-house tournament at the age of seven as a gray/white belt. At his first belt ceremony, his Sensei would invite him to join the Black Belt Club. I remember thinking as his mom that we did not sign up for that. We had only signed up for PE and socialization. Throughout his extensive 13 years on the mat, he has trained with multiple world champions and at prestigious academies. He has had the chance to roll, from a young age, with doctors, lawyers, firefighters, soldiers, FBI agents, lifeguards, professors, police officers, teacher, professors, and more. I would have never imagined the opportunities that jiu jitsu would provide for not only our son, but our family. We have traveled to multiple various locations for tournaments He has competed in close to one hundred tournaments at all levels-even winning IBJJF world championships at the Orange and Green belt levels. Brazilian jiu jitsu has helped shape our son to be the person he his today, giving him athleticism, poise, leadership skills, and confidence.
Throughout our son’s homeschool years, we would begin our day with a daily Bible reading, prayers, and hymn singing. He would complete one level of Saxon Math per year all the way through Advanced Math. He finished with CTC Math in Pre-Calculus. We taught him Latin, Greek, Spanish, a little Mandarin Chinese, and English. He learned to diagram sentences and did novel studies every year. I would read out loud to him almost daily, he would read silently, and he would have guided reading lesson using the McGuffey’s Readers. We used Ruth Beechick’s philosophy for writing in the early years. Her method is for the child to have writing modeled to them which often involves copying an experienced writer’s style. We would visit the library weekly until 2020 for various events, even a 3-D printer demonstration. A docent from the Casa Romantica in San Clemente invited him to return to his toddler reading group as a guest reader. What a joy it was to watch him under the flag pole at the outside amphitheater reading some of his favorite books to a crowd of toddlers, parents, and docents. He had a pet parakeet for 15 years, backyard chickens for 5 years, and helped grow at least 100 different types of fruits and vegetables organically. Our son would help us in the classroom as a teenager as his parents began teaching at homeschool hybrids. He was asked to teach the neighboring classrooms math when teachers needed assistance or even a substitute. Because of his Brazilian jiu jitsu, he was hired as a gate security guard for a brief time. Church gave him lots of public speaking opportunities as he was given a solo at the Christmas Program when we was ten and recited Bible verses during the annual Christmas programs, beginning at age two. He learned music with a gifted piano teacher in our community for a few years. We incorporated science and social studies by using curriculum from Answers in Genesis and BJU Press along with many library books on the topics. His education would be well rounded and complete.
Today, he is a freshman in college attending a private Christian university majoring in engineering. He completed his first semester with courses in engineering, calculus, core math, and philosophy while attaining the highest marks and making the Dean’s list. We agree with what his professors have told him, that he has a good work ethic. He continues his hobbies of Brazilian jiu jitsu as a purple belt and composer of synthesized music which he occasionally posts on YouTube which can be found at Voidium Music Studios.




